Let’s set the scene.

You have a date creating a out of this world lady, and you discover soon after she’s really into lifting. Now you’re no stranger to a health club, but you’re not heavily involved with strength sports for example powerlifting, weightlifting, CrossFit, strongman, or bodybuilding, which she’s, which means you start to wonder, “Can there be anything I ought to avoid saying on our date?”.

For context, we recently wrote about the seven things not saying to 2-Time CrossFit Games Champion Katrin Davidsdottir on the date, that is what inspired this short article. Her video got us thinking, what else shouldn’t you tell female strength athletes on a date?

We reached to athletes in multiple strength sports, and here’s what they needed to say.

Daniella Melo – Powerlifter

“I wouldn’t date a girl who’s stronger than me.”

Tiffany Nguyen – Powerlifter

“Why is you need to be strong?”

“You don’t think you’re more masculine than other women?”

“Why would you wish to lift that much weight?”

Sheri Miles – Powerlifter

“I wear gloves in the gym to help keep my hands soft.”

“Can I try some of your food? Let’s share dessert.”

Stefi Cohen – Powerlifter/Weightlifter

“Wow you eat a lot.”

“You’re pretty muscular, for a woman.”

“You need to do powerlifting, isn’t that a men’s sport?”

Jordan Weichers – Weightlifter

“Those jeans make you look skinny.”

“Are you going to eat ALL of that?”

“Flex for me personally. We have to see that has bigger biceps.”

Amber Abweh – Powerlifter

“Do you arm wrestle?”

“You do too eat a lot of protein?”

Alex Silver-Fagan – Strength Coach

“Aren’t you afraid of getting bulky?”

Aysha Haley – Powerlifter

“You can as well like deadlift me?”

“The number of inches around are your thighs?”

Meghan Scanlon – Powerlifter

“How much do you lift? Okay, and just how much do you weigh?”

“In high school I squatted 400 lbs.”

Sarah Brenner – Powerlifter

“I bet you can lift me.”

Kristen Dunsmore – Powerlifter

“Will you eat all of that?”

Maddy Forberg – Powerlifter

“Shouldn’t you be watching what you eat?”

“Do you consider your legs could crush me?”

“Are you really likely to eat all that?”

Stacia-Al Mahoe – Powerlifter/Weightlifter

“You have rough hands.”

“Aren’t you afraid you’ll seem like a guy.”

“Your traps are extremely big.”

Bonica Brown – Powerlifter

“Why do you like to lift so heavy?”

“Are you able to help me with my squat technique? Perhaps a program?”

Emily Hu – Powerlifter

“Wow your arms are big! Wanna arm wrestle?”

Chelsea Potter – Strength Coach

“Oh you wouldn’t like that, it’s not healthy.”

Wrapping Up

To be honest, a few of the above quotes may come as a no brainer, but for someone not involved with strength sports, it may not be so obvious. Advice going forward: if you find yourself on a date with a woman who’s involved in strength sports, then consider that which you say and how it could be taken prior to doing so.

Editors note: This article is an op-ed. The views expressed herein as well as in the video are the authors and do not necessarily reflect the views of BarBend. Claims, assertions, opinions, and quotes have been sourced exclusively through the author.